Of Commitment and Relationships Part II
i never thought that i would have a part II in my blog but since i was pulled away from my previous blogging session and couldnt finish....well here you have it part II on my thoughts of commitment and relationship
Now before I go on i should probably explain exactly who emmy is... no im not going to reveal her real life name and everything, i have invited her as a member of my blog (and hopefully she will accept, why didnt i think of that before her..grrr) and if she wants she will reveal it herself...what i am going to say emmy is the name i use to call kittypryde who also calls herself kit so dont you guys get confused , kit = kittypryde=emmy. Im not annoucing that emmy is my girlfriend in the previous post and then straight away go around and tell kit that i love her...*chatterbox* they are one and the same.
ok... ploughing on.. some people (guys mostly, but there seems to be more and more gals that fall into this category) have a problem commiting to a relationship.. they go out together..spend an exhorbant of time with each other and assume that they are an "item"... i know..been there..done that... and this phobia is understandable...well i think i understand it. My view on the hesitance to actually go out and say or rather like we do it here "declare" that the couple is an "item" ie. girlfriend+boyfriend is mainly due to the complications and built in fear to actually be shackled by the declaration of being a couple... if you dont actually declare and something goes wrong they think they can just shrug it of and assume that since it wasnt declared they werent actually a couple in the first place so it doesnt really matter... the reason i highlighted think is because they might think that but when a relationship goes awry....whether declared or not it hurts just the same..not declaring does not shield you from the hurt of a broken heart and it might actually make it worse because then you would start having doubts..if i had declared... maybe it wouldnt have ended like this or something similiar.. im not saying that that happens all the time or even if my view is correct its just MY view... ok
Well, some of you might be asking what my view on commiting to a relationship has got anything to do with the relationship that i have right now.... ok.. for those of you who didnt catch or read properly what i wrote in the preceding paragraphs (i know some of you are a bit slow...and i will make allowances for you guys...*grins*) ive been through a relationship where i did just that.. not declaring..just assuming and it did blow up in my face...but not because i didnt declare or anything..those close to me knows the whole story and attest to the fact that that wasnt the reason we broke up.. just trust me..it wasnt. Getting back on track..i sorta assumed that the next relationship would follow the same pattern and i wouldnt need to declare or all that nonsense (well i did think it at THAT time laa) and i wasnt actually looking for someone new...(even after all the hurt had subsided) when suddenly i found her...
and the rest as they say, is history
adios for now
Now before I go on i should probably explain exactly who emmy is... no im not going to reveal her real life name and everything, i have invited her as a member of my blog (and hopefully she will accept, why didnt i think of that before her..grrr) and if she wants she will reveal it herself...what i am going to say emmy is the name i use to call kittypryde who also calls herself kit so dont you guys get confused , kit = kittypryde=emmy. Im not annoucing that emmy is my girlfriend in the previous post and then straight away go around and tell kit that i love her...*chatterbox* they are one and the same.
ok... ploughing on.. some people (guys mostly, but there seems to be more and more gals that fall into this category) have a problem commiting to a relationship.. they go out together..spend an exhorbant of time with each other and assume that they are an "item"... i know..been there..done that... and this phobia is understandable...well i think i understand it. My view on the hesitance to actually go out and say or rather like we do it here "declare" that the couple is an "item" ie. girlfriend+boyfriend is mainly due to the complications and built in fear to actually be shackled by the declaration of being a couple... if you dont actually declare and something goes wrong they think they can just shrug it of and assume that since it wasnt declared they werent actually a couple in the first place so it doesnt really matter... the reason i highlighted think is because they might think that but when a relationship goes awry....whether declared or not it hurts just the same..not declaring does not shield you from the hurt of a broken heart and it might actually make it worse because then you would start having doubts..if i had declared... maybe it wouldnt have ended like this or something similiar.. im not saying that that happens all the time or even if my view is correct its just MY view... ok
Well, some of you might be asking what my view on commiting to a relationship has got anything to do with the relationship that i have right now.... ok.. for those of you who didnt catch or read properly what i wrote in the preceding paragraphs (i know some of you are a bit slow...and i will make allowances for you guys...*grins*) ive been through a relationship where i did just that.. not declaring..just assuming and it did blow up in my face...but not because i didnt declare or anything..those close to me knows the whole story and attest to the fact that that wasnt the reason we broke up.. just trust me..it wasnt. Getting back on track..i sorta assumed that the next relationship would follow the same pattern and i wouldnt need to declare or all that nonsense (well i did think it at THAT time laa) and i wasnt actually looking for someone new...(even after all the hurt had subsided) when suddenly i found her...
and the rest as they say, is history
adios for now
posted by Althie at 9/23/2004 09:21:00 PM
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